It is time to stop listening to anyone—experts, colleagues, your mother—who tells you your job search has to be hard or that you need to settle for a job you do not like or to “suck it up” with the job you have. It is simply not supporting you in getting where you want to go.
When I “should” a lot, I am usually left with a nice heaping pile of big expectations on myself and guilt because I do not feel inspired to act on these shoulds. I’m telling you now…the shoulds do not help you in your career or your life. They have definitely not helped me.
Being at the forefront of someone’s mind can help you land the job you want or a new client (if you’re an entrepreneur). And let’s be honest here, a resume, a website or an email cannot make that happen. Do this instead.
I have this tendency to make requests, that are SUPER important to me, in a very roundabout way. Instead of straight-up asking for what I need or stating what I think is the right action to take, I am inclined to turn my request into a question.
The United States has been in a new, more individualistic arms race in the last 15 to 20 years. Our weapon of choice? Evidence of who is working longer.