My prime example of why I don’t have resolutions: do you know a gym rat who groans in January of each year because he or she knows that the gym will be packed with people who have resolved to lose weight? For up to the first three months of the year, it’s harder to get the machines and weights you want because of this New Year resolvers, but then…it’s suddenly back to business as usual and the gym rats are again happy.
I also noticed that when I have been in a period of setting goals and going after them, I often have an anxiety around the goals I have set. They tend to be ambitious desires and I immediately go into “doing mode” and feel really stressed out. Honestly, this has put me off goal-setting for quite some time. Why would I choose to make myself stressed out over goals? Doesn’t that defeat the purpose?
There are many potential factors that people name for depression and sadness this time of year including Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) and stress from the holidays. Scientists have discovered that self-reflection during this time of year has also taken its toll.
There is a troubling statement out in the world that can suck out all the fun and joy that you can have while in the office: “I have to go to work.”
As I think over my career history, there is one peculiar pattern that I acknowledged. It took me a really long time to trust myself when it was time to actually quit a job and move on. I doubt I am alone here.