“What do I have to do to get what I want? I’ll do ANYTHING. Whatever it takes.”
Have you said that before? I know I have.
I would jump online do a ton of research on what I should be doing and follow it to a fault. I would do it all to make my desire become my reality. Laser-focused on it.
Sometimes this practice worked really well and sometimes it didn’t, and I had no idea why. It was such a frustrating process.
The professional stuff would come easily (new jobs, raises, cool work responsibility, full-tuition scholarships) but when it came to other things, particularly relationships with family, friends and significant others, I used to feel like the Universe was always against me.
I was getting really tired of it. I was grateful for the success I was having professionally but I was really done with my relationships not working. I got to the point where it was time to get help. I reached out to therapists and coaches and what I discovered is that the DOINGNESS was not nearly as important as my MINDSET.
My career was going so well because I was already in a mindset of “I deserve this and I can make it happen.” When it came to relationships, my mindset was not so solid. I experienced way more doubt that was preventing me from having the types of relationships I desired.
When things didn’t go as I wanted with say my mom, I would say “This always happens to me!” or “I can never win with her.”
And guess what? When I said stuff like that, it became a self-fulfilling prophecy.
How Law of Attraction Works and How You Can Use It in Your Career
One of my favorite books is Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill, and in this book he discusses the concept of “You become what you think about.”
If you tell yourself over and over that you’re going to fail at finding a career you love with a salary you desire, then what chance do you have? You established for yourself it is not possible and then you hope that you’ll prove yourself wrong, but your mind has set the intention that you cannot possibly achieve this goal.
Read that again because it’s important: there is a distinction between desire/hope and intention, and that’s where the true magic of Law of Attraction comes in.
You can desire to have the career of your dreams but if all it is to you is a pipedream, you will not have it come into your reality. On the flip side, if you set the intention that you will have the career of your dreams and you TRUST that your career is coming or even better, that it’s already here and act as if it is, your intention has no choice but to come into fruition.
While this idea is simple, I know it is more difficult to practice. It requires a consistent mindset to expect your intention in this way and at least for me, it causes me to face my conversation about if I’m worthy of my intended outcome. This is where the real work is.
You can do all the things to create a career you love–have the perfect resume and cover letter, network, know exactly what to say in interviews, know how to ask for a raise or promotion–but if you do not believe you can have the career you love, you will subconsciously find ways to self-sabotage to prove that you are not worthy.
Make 2018 the year that you trust in your worthiness to have the career you love with the salary you desire. Instead of going into your doing mode, get still, get present and ground yourself into just how much you deserve to have your wildest dreams materialize. Once you’re there, the doingness that you (and I) are so good at will be a piece of cake and your intention will become your reality faster than you ever previously thought was possible.
To your trustworthiness!