WANT TO KNOW HOW TO CREATE A CAREER YOU LOVE IN 3 MONTHS OR LESS?
"When I started working with Lisa, I felt stuck. As a result of our partnership, I've become more in touch with my professional hopes and more confident in the ability to achieve them."Angela Granese
LISA FRUMIN IS A VISIONARY CAREER COACH HERE TO HELP YOU FIND THE JOB OF YOUR DREAMS
On the day I graduated from college, I hit rock bottom. With our black caps and red gowns on, my friends were reminiscing about college parties, staying up all night gabbing with their best friend and that hockey game where the goalie made an incredible save that won us the game. And the only memory that flashed through my mind was studying in the library, by myself.
Rock bottom was the voice inside my head saying “What am I living for?”
Just a month before graduation in April 2008, I turned down the only job offer I received. My gut told me to turn it down, but my parents’ faces told me they thought I made a big mistake.
Instead, I accepted an unpaid Congressional internship based on my intuition and passion. I decided I wanted to go after the job I really desired, one that would make a difference in this world, rather than settle for the one that did not light a fire up in my belly.
In June 2008, I moved to DC with $2,000 in my bank account and a dream of getting hired in Congress. I poured my whole heart and soul into my internship with a smile on my face. At night, I cried tears of fear and anxiety as my bank account dwindled, wondering if my risk was going to pay off. But then I landed my dream first job six months after graduating college: I became the youngest legislative assistant on the Senate Banking Committee, just as the 2008 financial crisis started.
I was working hard at my job and I saw the tangible results of success rolling in: raises, more interesting work. I got everything I wanted. On paper, I looked amazing. People were coming to me asking for career advice and how to network effectively. You would think I would be over the moon, right?
BUT I WAS MAKING MYSELF SICK.
For 2 years, I had a head cold that I couldn’t shake (it’s as if I had mono but I didn’t have mono). I couldn’t figure out why I was so physically and mentally unhappy despite having an awesome career.
That’s when the real soul-searching began. Life had to be better than this. It didn’t have to be just an awesome life on paper. In fact, I believed that many people enjoyed their respective journeys AND experienced great success.
MY 2ND ROCK BOTTOM MOMENT
It happened when I graduated from Johns Hopkins School of Advanced International Studies (SAIS) and moved to New York. I received an out-of-this-world job offer 6 months before graduating and I was ready for the next phase of my life. I thought I would find happiness now that I got such an amazing position and was starting over in a new city.
Well I got great performance reviews, interesting work and a whole lot of loneliness and pent-up stress. Instead of making the most out of New York, I stayed home most Friday nights watching Law and Order or studying for the CFA. In a city of 8 million people, I sure knew how to be alone with only my misery to sit with me on the couch.
I began asking powerful questions about why I was making my life so difficult for myself and why couldn’t my life be easier and happier. I again began searching for answers.
A year later, I moved back to DC, thinking I would find more happiness there. I was happy for a while in a job I enjoyed but then my world came crashing down around me again.
I HATED MY LIFE AND MYSELF WITH ALL MY SOUL.
I had a wonderful boyfriend, a job that looked great on paper and amazing friends. And I hated my life and myself with all my soul. I complained about my job like it was my job. I feared my boyfriend leaving me like I would die if we parted ways. I was shrouded in fear and anxiety. I was draining to be around.
That was when rock bottom moment number 3 ensued and the last one I allowed myself to have (third time’s a charm, right?). It was August 2014. I just turned 28 and my mom, sister and I had the worst blowout of my life. I had come completely undone with fountains of tears coming out of my eyes, gasping for air and dark gloomy clouds obscuring my mind. I ran out of my childhood home and into a hotel so that I could calm my nervous system and reset.
I felt stuck in my career and my life.
I was burned out. Stressed out. Anxious. Emotionally drained. Totally exhausted.
IT WAS TIME TO LOVE MY CAREER AND MY LIFE
I started practicing yoga regularly, sleeping more, eating healthier, drinking more water and less coffee. I was the girl constantly in the self-help section of the local bookstore. I voraciously read everything I could get my hands on that would help me shift my mental and emotional state.
I desired to feel a deeper sense of purpose and meaning in my life. I also wanted joy and inspiration and compassion. All of this led me to participate in a coaching program that rocked me to my core and shifted my whole perspective on my life.
I still remember finally realizing that I did not need to work so hard to deserve happiness, love, abundance or joy. It could all come easier and quicker than I ever previously thought. From that epiphany, life flowed. I began tasting my food as if I never tasted food. I enjoyed the sun on my face. I felt gratitude for my journey. I celebrated my successes and enjoyed the present moment.
I knew I wanted to support others to find easy, breezy purpose and meaning in their careers and lives. Everyone deserves to feel joy, self-worth and satisfaction in their careers.
There was no turning back. I knew it was time to become a career coach and serve others.
Now, I work with ambitious men and women to discover what they want to do in their careers that gives them purpose, satisfaction and joy in their work and lives, to cultivate self-worth and confidence and to transition into careers that has them jumping out of bed saying “I can’t wait to get to work and make a difference!”
I smile more. I laugh louder. I hug often. I am present to my loved ones and friends. Above all, I’m grateful for the life I get to lead and the life experience that brought me to where I am today, in an empowered place to serve those around me in their own careers.